The Perfectionist Paradox: Why Doing It All Is Costing You Your Magic

When deep feelers and creatives mistake their multi-talented, multi-layered, brilliant nature for a problem ‘to be fixed’ and Self-work becomes… Self-abandonment.

For many years, I believed my deep feeling, rebellious, sensitive nature (that comes with witch-like intuition) was a flaw that had to be tamed, fixed. 

An ill-suited trait for a world that wanted me to tone it down and be normal. Whatever that means.

I buried my messiness, soft, and wildly spontaneous personality under layers of perfectionism and adaptation.

I thought I had to conform and perform following (stupid) outside standards or I wouldn’t belong, be safe, succeed. 

Maybe you know that place too.

Where you feel like the alien, too much and too weird.
You hold it all together because you’re the strong one and “nobody would understand anyway.”
You do it all because “nobody can do it like you can.”
And you squeeze yourself into boxes.

So you shrink.
Say the right things.
You’re always available with a smile—even when you’re hurting.
Say you don’t need any help—even when you really do.

You can barely remember how it used to be… To be HER.

That spontaneous, untamed, open-hearted girl who used to follow her curiosity riding to the edge of the unknown with delight and excitement. The one who cried when she needed without holding back, and let herself be held in that raw humanness and vulnerability.

The one who dreamed f***ing big.

You’ve tried to fix her.

The journaling. The mindset shifts. The books. The positive thinking. The endless self-work. The one-size-fits-all formulas that could never hold you in your multi-layered, multi-talented, magical genius.

You were told to “think better thoughts,” “follow the steps,” “vibe high” — but none of it truly met you. None of it honored your brilliance.

And something inside you has been burning deep.

HER.

The one you tried to silence, hide, and fix.

She’s fire rising. And she’s now rebelling.

And here’s the life-altering truth:

you suddenly realise… you’ve been mistaking your too-muchness for a flaw… when all along, it was your f*cking greatness.

YES. YES wildheart!

THAT shift changes EVERYTHING.

I know how heavy and heart-breaking it is to always do it all and hold it together, perfectly, confidently, meanwhile your heart aches to be held for once. Craves to be cracked open and lead you into the soul-fueled life and impact you came here for.

A quick backstory from my own experience.

I became hyper-independent early on and wore it like a badge of honor (that’s what society conditions us to think!). Kept my weirdness, tenderness, my quirks and cheeky smile tucked away like something to be ashamed of. Trusted ‘expert advice’ over my own inner compass. 

And eventually, the weight and the heartbreak of abandoning myself became heavier than the fear of not belonging. I realised that if I kept going the way I was—pushing and powering through, ignoring my truth—the life I wanted, and the impact I was here to make would never become real.

At 21, I cracked. I sought and got support, let out all the stuff I was holding inside, and the veil of shame started lifting.

And something cracked open.
The outburst poured out like liberating purifying cleansing fire. 

(cool side story: I had such a deep urge to channel that fierce energy that I wrote a piece of poetry—something I had never done before. It was raw and deep, and it got international recognition. A part of it is currently tattooed on one side of my torso. That’s how real and potent it is to lead from your truth—it ignites deeper resonance and creates the greatest impact.)

That moment was my initiation. The beginning of my sacred reclamation journey.

Here’s what I mean by reclamation:

You express your truth and let yourself be led by your vision—not approval and misaligned expectations.
You ask for what you really need and you let yourself be supported, by your loved ones, Nature, Source, the spiritual energetic realm.
You create + share from overflow.
You don’t absorb from others, you filter everything through your inner compass.
You let yourself fully be.

The transformation activated in me alchemized pain into power, and lit me up to the point I couldn’t keep it to myself. It was that good. It had to be shared.

I began studying holistic modalities, teaching, guiding, and creating.

I was finally listening. Finally answering the call. Stepping into the role that is laced into my soul—guiding bravehearts, rebels, and creative visionaries like you who feel this same fire, this same ache for aligned, soul-powered living and impact.

Fast forward to now.
I praise the rebel within and I let her lead.
We play, we dance, we celebrate, we birth magic together.
I don't squeeze myself into ways of doing, being, and into systems that were never built for people like us!
I let my nature lead. 

That’s the gateway to thriving and claiming your place and fulfilling your mission in this lifetime. It’s the only way.

To you who are rising,
untamed, unhurried, unfiltered.
To you who are done playing small and shrinking to fit into a ‘box’.

It’s time to soar.

Here’s how I can help!

Check out my 1-to-1 signature Program Rewilding Path To Magic.

You were never too much.
You’re freakin’ brilliant. And you know it. 

You’re here to break molds. Blaze trails. Ignite a revolution.

This is your call. Your sacred rebellion.

It’s time to step into it.

Welcome home, wildheart.